Divine love, conscious connection, one consciousness, these are the topics that I have been contemplating within my writings & teachings.
How do I describe the simplistic complexity of it all?
To describe it is so simple and so not at the same time.
Layers upon layers of unfolding themes.
How do you describe a ripe strawberry to someone who has never tasted one, warm from the sun, grown in your own backyard, that sweetness? Tasting this changes you forever. It’s like tasting the sun or the sweetness of life.
Divine love is like this. Once you have experienced it, have felt it, you know.
You have tasted the sun and the sweetness of life.
And other forms of love seem self serving or incomplete in comparison. The softness of divine love is what makes it so powerful. The beauty of divine love is that its point of creation is you. That’s the beautiful key. There’s no chasing or trying to find this love, it’s you. It’s in you, it’s your connection to your heart, to spirit or god, it’s your connection to the natural world and with this divine love, naturally attracted are those who have seen or felt this love too. For they recognise that light within. You can rest within divine love, you are safe within divine love, you are loved and held within divine love.
Other forms of love can have an external activation or point of origin. There is a focus of your love outside of you, on your desire of another person whether its familial, eros or lustful, passionate, romantic, there is this love or want or need of another to create the bond of love.
Divine love begins with your connection to you, and your heart. This connection expands from your heart to god, your higher power, consciousness, your divine partner, your family or loved ones and then this love cycles back within you. It can be seen as unconditional love, universal love, the love of god or creator, or agape. It’s a never-ending continuous flow of love. It is effortless, you are simply soft and open to receive this flow.
Agape for me is a term of endearment and only recently have I seen the full bloom of the meaning of the word.
Agape for my whole life simply meant love. Agape mou - my love.
It’s what my Gia gia would call me, It’s where I started calling everyone love too. Who knows how many times in a day I refer to others as love or say the word love.
It is a conscious choice for me to call people love, it may seem unconscious or a habit though I believe what we speak, we speak into existence so why would I not create more love in the world in the most simplest and obvious of ways?
I have spoken before how the Greeks have eight different names for the different kinds of love we can experience. I love this about us Greeks. The passion, the desire for love. And agape is seen as the highest form of love.
Whether you call it spiritual love, unconditional love, divine love, no matter how you see it, this is selfless love, loving compassion, kindness without condition to the love, it’s consideration, its devotion, you love simply because you are love.
Life makes sense with this love.
Divine love or agape cannot exist without self love.
You cannot love another completely until you love yourself.
And the depths to which you love yourself will be reflected back to you by the love that surrounds you.
Love this deep or this big can be scary, if you were to close your eyes and ask it to come, or simply feel it, it can feel overwhelming, to be this vulnerable, to be this open, to be this loving.
But what if it was the most magic, the most delicious thing you had ever tasted?
Before I write any piece or newsletter, I sit in contemplation. I love it. It’s like a meditation, though my focus or intention is blooming the title or the subtitle. Often the title will come to me, sometimes from the previous writing and as soon as I write the words I know this is the title for the next piece, sometimes what I think the subject is from the title is something so different, so much more complex or delicious.
With the practice of contemplation, I simply sit with it. I let the pieces fall into place in their own time. I allow space for the energy to come through. There’s no forcing, or overthinking, it’s simply an exploration of concept. I give it time to bloom. With this piece and the energy around divine love, I was shown when I first recorded the meditation about divine love (you can listen here). I had written a little post on it, and recorded a reel. This was Dec 2nd, 2023. I was woken early this day, and recorded the meditation way before sunrise, I posted it, and then the writing came through for socials. This was a special day for me. For I saw how divine love can change the world. This simple word, spoken to me my whole life, that had followed me around - agape would be the thing to change the world.
The themes started to form around divine love - kindness, softness, gentleness, consideration, curiosity, freedom, play, devotion, desire, pleasure, passion, permission, intention. Each one and more coming in and blooming. Each can be their own topic, their own piece.
Contemplation may only happen the one time, maybe it happens a few times. I have learnt my process and sometimes it is one sitting, other times it may take a few days depending on the information. This writing has taken me a week to unravel threads where each form their own complete inquiry or teaching.
In contemplation the invitation for those who read this was all around the idea of
‘what do we truly love about ourselves?’
If you were to sit with you for a moment, to contemplate, to close your eyes, and ask to be shown, or feel what are your favourite things about you? What do you love about yourself? Without fear of it being ego, or narcissistic, what brings a smile to you about you?
This is what I wrote in my journal, and if you feel called to do so, this is wonderful, for you, for your partner, for your children x
What do I love about me?
I love my heart, I love my heart so much, I love its capacity for love
I love my mind, my sense of humour (I know, I want to have this side be shown more, not just in private)
I love the way I see the world, I love showing others how I see the world
I love how I cook, I love how happy it makes people when I am cooking
I love seeing how my energy changes the energy around me
I love my surfing and how it brings me so much joy in my life and that those I love share this passion
I love my body, all of it…
This last one had me in tears because I instantly saw over the years of my life all the times I had not loved my body, or loved parts of it. How much energy, time I had wasted on not loving my physical self. How I saw myself was not how others saw me, bore no weight on how much they loved me or liked me, it was just the story I had been telling myself. I love my body, and have for a long while, but when I wrote it, the emotion rose. So there was something still there to move or shift, and how we heal is with love.
So, I forgave myself, and loved this part of me that had shamed my body. I opened up all my love and poured it into my body.
Even still, even now, I was shown somewhere to love more. Each of us can love ourselves more. It may be through focusing your love on those parts you love, or seeing the parts that have been calling to you for love. This divine love, or agape starts with you. For how we love ourself is reflected in our relationships. If there are parts of ourself we do not love, we will see that in others as parts we do not love about them. And this is in all relationships. For when we are agitated with another, generally there is a behaviour being displayed that is showing us a part of ourself that we are not loving or liking. If agitation is a key for expansion, or healing or growth, then see agitation with curious eyes. Be curious with your agitation for when it falls away, the other side of this is simply love.
I feel like I have not even scratched the surface of what divine love means, how it feels, how it can change things for us. For new layers keep presenting, new ways of feeling or experiencing this divine love. More often than not when I am in the energy, I am freely crying tears of pure gratitude, of joy, for the deepest parts of my heart being seen. And still I only feel like the water of this deep well is lapping my toes. The exploration of divine love with partner, the practice coming through to open couples to the experience, the way in which we view relationships is changing, I am loving this opening of my practice and where we will be going more this year.
When I feel into the energy of divine partner love, when I feel into the emotion of it, there is a sense of clarity even though you may not have all the answers. There is no confusion with this love, no insecurity or questioning yourself or their love for you. There’s no question as to how you feel, even if there are no words spoken. There is nothing to prove, no validation needed, you are not requiring other opinions on how they view the relationship. It just makes sense, and life makes sense with them.
No matter if you are searching, or calling your love to you, no matter if you are in relationship, been married for a long time, each partnership has the opportunity to evolve into divine love. To begin this way, to continue this way.
Our hearts have been so tired from holding up these masks, walls, false forms of protection. We are tired. Divine love is rest and respite, there is no need for protection within this energy. Your whole being is held so that your tired heart can rest. You are safe with this love.
What would change, how could the world change if we no longer operated from these built up walls or masks? Soft, gentle love has no reason to hide anymore. Our power lies within our softness of being.
For this divine love sees you as you, in your perfection that is you now. Not when you loose kilos, or change your body, not when you change your hair or buy a new outfit. Divine love is the beauty of your heart being seen, and shining bright to light up the world.
So, how do we call this divine love into our life?
We soften.
We soften our words, we soften our energy, we soften our thoughts, we soften our hearts.
For when we soften, we are matching the vibration of divine love. We create space for love to flow in. We create space to allow for contemplation, there is no need to rush to response, we can take our time. We can honour our process and the process of our loved ones. Stress or worry melts away as you have the energy of - I’ve got you, we are in this together.
I see consideration as one of the highest forms of divine love. For when we are considerate we are taking into account how we move through life affects those around us. When we show consideration we are making decisions selflessly. We are aware and present of our words and actions and how they can help to heal and support those who we love. Consideration is key to divine love. We are acting from a place of love.
Then we have the concept of permission and how by asking permission to touch someone is the gentlest way of acknowledging one’s boundaries and levels of comfort. We ask permission in an energy session to go into another’s energy, what if we did this with our loving relationships, and what else could flow and be the same? intention, releasing of expectations, being open to the experience…
Devotion was another theme coming up for me - your love coming from a place of devotion where there is no outcome guaranteed. Devotion being the trust or love in the unknown, to devote myself to my purpose, to my love, to devote to being in service, this is a peaceful devotion. This is how I see divine love also. A peaceful devotion. Devotion to self, to your practice, to your loving relationships.
If all I choose is to be is soft, I am powerful within this softness, there is no need or requirement for me to be loud about my love, the whisper of it carries the power of infinite love. And it is infinite. Divine love is in the stillness of softness.
Do you see and feel the deliciousness of tasting the sun and the sweetness of life? Life just makes sense when we experience this kind of love.
For those wanting to step deeply into divine love, I ask the question of god, of love, of agape to show me how we can ask for our divine partnership to display love. How do we create divine love in our life?
These simple questions are given - ask these questions of yourself, ask these questions of your love
What’s your favourite thing about me?
In what way do I comfort you?
In what way do I make you feel safe?
In what way do I help you to heal?
In what way can I love you more?
In what ways do I make you feel seen and heard?
When did you know that I loved you?
Oh my gosh, truly I love love. Truly I love where the work is leading me, truly there is so much more to come, and I’m here for it x
If love be a river, let it flow through me and wash away any doubt, any insecurity that bears down on me, for we are here to be in flow, and the flow is that of love.
I love you, and even that seems too simple… x nicole
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